: a girl that I follow made a post about rape that made me really upset. she said that rape does not run through the minds of "normal" men like how murder doesn't go through the mind it normal people, only psychos commit rape. we should not be angry at men, but we should be angry with rapists. can you please help me formulate a response to a statement like this? I need to validate my being upset because when people say stuff like this it makes me feel like it's absolute and I'm in the wrong
I’d present her with these statistics and ask her to explain them (bolded for relevance to your specific situation)
"Only Psychos Think Rape is OK…Right? - Societal Attitudes Supporting Rape"
A survey of 6,159 college students enrolled at 32 institutions in the U.S. found the following: (ref 4)
- 54% of the women surveyed had been the victims of some form of sexual abuse; more than one in four college-aged women had been the victim of rape or attempted rape;
- 57% of the assaults occurred on dates;
- 73% of the assailants and 55% of the victims had used alcohol or other drugs prior to the assault;
- 25% of the men surveyed admitted some degree of sexually aggressive behavior;
- 42% of the victims told no one.
- In a survey of high school students, 56% of the girls and 76% of the boys believed forced sex was acceptable under some circumstances. (ref 5)
A survey of 11-to-14 year-olds found: (ref 5)
- 51% of the boys and 41% of the girls said forced sex was acceptable if the boy, “spent a lot of money” on the girl;
- 31% of the boys and 32% of the girls said it was acceptable for a man to rape a woman with past sexual experience;
- 87% of boys and 79% of girls said sexual assault was acceptable if the man and the woman were married;
- 65% of the boys and 47% of the girls said it was acceptable for a boy to rape a girl if they had been dating for more than six months.
In a survey of male college students:
- 35% anonymously admitted that, under certain circumstances, they would commit rape if they believed they could get away with it (ref 6,7).
- One in 12 admitted to committing acts that met the legal definitions of rape, and 84% of men who committed rape did not label it as rape. (ref 6,7)
In another survey of college males: (ref 8)
- 43% of college-aged men admitted to using coercive behavior to have sex, including ignoring a woman’s protest, using physical aggression, and forcing intercourse.
- 15% acknowledged they had committed acquaintance rape; 11% acknowledged using physical restraints to force a woman to have sex.
- Women with a history of rape or attempted rape during adolescence were almost twice as likely to experience a sexual assault during college, and were three times as likely to be victimized by a husband. (ref 9)
- Sexual assault is reported by 33% to 46% of women who are being physically assaulted by their husbands.(ref 10)
Um…while I completely agree with the statement above, I must say one thing. How in the world does asking 11 year olds to 14 year olds about sexual abuse help prove any points about rape? They have no idea what they are responding to, and it makes me a little sick to see that they are being used as an audience for studies about rape and sexual abuse.
With that said, screw rape. And screw rapists. And screw bad people. They suck.
Kids soak up cultural messages like little sponges and analyzing their responses is a great way to reflect on the types of conditioning that our culture subjects us to, beginning at birth. Notice the difference in answers between gender? The entitlement to female bodies in boys and the concept that as girls, our desires and wishes are less important than theirs starts young and is pervasive, and these studies are evidence of that. Most gendered conditioning is extremely micro-aggressive and inconspicuous, but it still overwhelms our development and the way we grow up to view each other and ourselves. This study was not “using kids as an audience”, it was measuring how much rape culture and prevailing attitudes about consent and entitlement to sex effect young students, often ones who are already exploring and curious relationships and sex. It is VITAL that we acknowledge and educate youth about sexuality, consent, abuse, and relationships from the get-go, because patriarchal values start their conditioning long before we ever (IF ever) consider teaching what healthy relationships, consent and respect look like.
Go Forth and Educate Yourselves!
I’d also highly recommend watching the Jane Elliot Brown-eye/Blue-eye experiments, which can be found here:
IM SCREAMING OVER 500 PEOPLE REPORTED HER
Can’t stop, won’t stop: Protesters in Ferguson rally again, seeking justice for Mike Brown. More than a month and a half after his death, his killer, Darren Wilson, is still a free man. (Pt 2)
Because it wouldn’t be a protest in Ferguson without fuckery from the police. A driver plowed his car through protesters, grazing several and running over a young boys foot. Beyond taking several hours to transport the boy to the hospital, they took even longer to arrest the motorist. Who did they not wait long to arrest? Two of the protesters who had been documenting the altercation for the world to see. If you’re not angry, you’re not paying attention. #staywoke #farfromover #nojusticenopeace
"I like my hair messy. My love wild. And my sex aggressive. But I’m still a sensitive woman, just with passion."
since abercrombie an fitch destroys its unsold clothes and wont donate bc poor people wearing their clothes gives them a bad image i say everyone should donate as much abercrombie and fitch brand clothing that you have to homeless shelters so you can simultaneously piss off a shitty company and help those in need
After forgiving millions of dollars in medical debt, Occupy Wall Street is tackling a new beast: student loans.
Marking the third anniversary of the Occupy Wall Street movement, the group’s Strike Debt initiative announced Wednesday it has abolished $3.8 million worth of private student loan debt since January. It said it has been buying the debts for pennies on the dollar from debt collectors, and then simply forgiving that money rather than trying to collect it.
In total, the group spent a little more than $100,000 to purchase the $3.8 million in debt.
While the group is unable to purchase the majority of the country’s $1.2 trillion in outstanding student loan debt because it is backed by the federal government, private student debt is fair game.
This debt Occupy bought belonged to 2,700 people who had taken out private student loans to attend Everest College, which is run byCorinthian Colleges. Occupy zeroed in on Everest because Corinthian Colleges is one of the country’s largest for-profit education companies and has been in serious legal hot water lately.
Following a number of federal investigations, the college told investors this summer that it plans to sell or close its 107 campuses due to financial problems — potentially leaving its 74,000 students in a lurch.
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A Texas man is under arrest after gunning down a SWAT team member as the officer quietly tried to climb in through the apartment’s window during predawn hours.
Police State USAreports that a resident fatally shot Detective Charles “Chuck” Dinwiddie as the officer climbed in through a ground level window as part of a “no knock” raid. The officers were there due to suspicion that residents were in possession of controlled substances.
Upon hearing a noise, resident Marvin Louis Guy, 50, opened fire on the unidentified officers, shooting three others as well, although only one fatally.
Guy is currently being held on capital murder charges in connection with Dinwiddie’s death, even though it’s unclear how Guy was supposed to know that the men crawling in through the window were police officers since they hadn’t identified themselves.
The evidence sheet lists a laptop, a safe, a pistol, and a glass pipe, but no drugs were found. Given the evidence, why did police deem it necessary to seek a “no knock” warrant and why did a judge sign off on it?
Very little is known about Mr. Guy, but Dinwiddie left behind two children, all because his SWAT team went creeping into a home where the residents didn’t even have any drugs. Is that the best use of law enforcement tax dollars?
Guy’s bond has been set at $3 million dollars.
Thank you lieutenantnorals!
The dude was legitimately scared for his life because someone was sneaking into his apartment in the early morning. The cops are the ones who messed up here. No-knock warrants are really shitty.
so according to the criminal justice system, either you’re supposed to magically know when the person trying to break into your house is a cop looking for drugs that you don’t have, or you’re not allowed to shoot someone who’s trying to break into your house? oh wait, i forgot only white people are allowed to fatally shoot someone in this country without facing criminal penalties
Very much this. Our “justice” system is very much about maintaining the status quo that Power has created in this country.
Anonymous: One of the saddest and most hil- NO BITCH, the sad thing here is the fact that you're a stripper. If you want respect, maybe you should've graduated high school. 😂😂 when did stripping become a legitimate career?
Awww, you tried so hard, but unfortunately I can’t hear you over the sound of my debt-free college degree and massive disposable income.
#tell your dad I said thanks for funding my lifestyle