a girl that I follow made a post about rape that made me really upset. she said that rape does not run through the minds of "normal" men like how murder doesn't go through the mind it normal people, only psychos commit rape. we should not be angry at men, but we should be angry with rapists. can you please help me formulate a response to a statement like this? I need to validate my being upset because when people say stuff like this it makes me feel like it's absolute and I'm in the wrong
I’d present her with these statistics and ask her to explain them (bolded for relevance to your specific situation)
A survey of 6,159 college students enrolled at 32 institutions in the U.S. found the following: (ref 4)
54% of the women surveyed had been the victims of some form of sexual abuse; more than one in four college-aged women had been the victim of rape or attempted rape;
57% of the assaults occurred on dates;
73% of the assailants and 55% of the victims had used alcohol or other drugs prior to the assault;
25% of the men surveyed admitted some degree of sexually aggressive behavior;
42% of the victims told no one.
In a survey of high school students, 56% of the girls and 76% of the boys believed forced sex was acceptable under some circumstances. (ref 5)
A survey of 11-to-14 year-olds found: (ref 5)
51% of the boys and 41% of the girls said forced sex was acceptable if the boy, “spent a lot of money” on the girl;
31% of the boys and 32% of the girls said it was acceptable for a man to rape a woman with past sexual experience;
87% of boys and 79% of girls said sexual assault was acceptable if the man and the woman were married;
65% of the boys and 47% of the girls said it was acceptable for a boy to rape a girl if they had been dating for more than six months.
In a survey of male college students:
35% anonymously admitted that, under certain circumstances, they would commit rape if they believed they could get away with it (ref 6,7).
One in 12 admitted to committing acts that met the legal definitions of rape, and 84% of men who committed rape did not label it as rape. (ref 6,7)
In another survey of college males: (ref 8)
43% of college-aged men admitted to using coercive behavior to have sex, including ignoring a woman’s protest, using physical aggression, and forcing intercourse.
15% acknowledged they had committed acquaintance rape; 11% acknowledged using physical restraints to force a woman to have sex.
Women with a history of rape or attempted rape during adolescence were almost twice as likely to experience a sexual assault during college, and were three times as likely to be victimized by a husband. (ref 9)
Sexual assault is reported by 33% to 46% of women who are being physically assaulted by their husbands.(ref 10)
since abercrombie an fitch destroys its unsold clothes and wont donate bc poor people wearing their clothes gives them a bad image i say everyone should donate as much abercrombie and fitch brand clothing that you have to homeless shelters so you can simultaneously piss off a shitty company and help those in need
One of the saddest and most hil- NO BITCH, the sad thing here is the fact that you're a stripper. If you want respect, maybe you should've graduated high school. 😂😂 when did stripping become a legitimate career?
Awww, you tried so hard, but unfortunately I can’t hear you over the sound of my debt-free college degree and massive disposable income.
today i was in hot topic with my mom and there was a bra with Simba on it so I asked her “want a lion king bra?” she said “why would i?” so I put it in front of my chest and said “hakuna ma tatas” she had to leave the store she was laughing so hard.
This is a thoughtful thing to do for people who might be expecting bad or serious news. My family got in the habit when Grannybarb was really sick, and every time my phone rang I was terrified that it was a Serious Call.
So when we just wanted to chat, my mom and sisters and would text the other person ahead of time, so we knew that it wasn’t serious and we didn’t have to drop everything to take it/steel ourselves emotionally/get to a place where we could flip out if need be.